Each life cycle involves a transformation . After an engagement, the change of a job, a marriage, a bereavement, a birth, a move or going to school, there is a period of metamorphosis that involves individuals and the whole family. Children are not excluded. Indeed, the transformations overwhelm them in full. And often they cannot easily cope with the period of stress that interests them. “Bringing out what is inside” (educating) that is, implicitly considering that there are the necessary resources to acquire new information. This expresses and highlights the possibility of facing probable changes without necessarily incurring a “trauma”.
How to get children used to changes?
Children do not particularly like the stress that can arise from new situations and therefore will do everything to avoid such occasions, rejecting them and expressing their disagreement about what they face. But every experience depends exclusively on how the parents themselves manage it.Each environment, like people, is a point of reference from which the child draws security, affection and order. Therefore, these elements must never be lacking in any situation that concerns him. Circumstances can be many and also occur unexpectedly.
A move, a move , a new nursery school, entry to elementary school, new friends and teachers, inclusion in sports activities or play groups always produce new sensations and children must be helped in this to avoid emergence of more complex problems. First of all the separation anxiety or any emotional trauma due to a marked sensitivity of the child. It is therefore possible to anticipate any conditions that may arise, for example with a move that inevitably involves the change of city or neighborhood.
In this case, if there is no compelling need to change the structure that houses the child, it would be better to wait for the passage from one school year to another or from a lower to a higher class. In any case, it is possible to ” prepare” the children for this possible event by imagining together what the new school will be like, the new classmates, the teachers, the bedroom and the many games it will bring with it.
When faced with possible choices, it is good to ask them what they think about a change that affects their life, to understand how they could react. It is also possible to involve them slowlyin the knowledge of the area, or get to know the teacher or the sports facility first. Bring a few friends with you to make him feel more confident. In short, ensure that any stimulus that may generate anxiety or fear is monitored through a priori preparation and by far avoiding the “surprise effect”.